Can we ever be fully independent?

Hey Bloggers,

Do you ever think you are fully standing on your own two feet?  Are you one of these people who thrive off of the idea of being able to make all your decisions alone?  Or are you the total opposite and allow for others to input in all your decision making?

Can we ever be fully independent, or will something or someone always influence us?

I like to think of myself as a very independent person who makes all their decisions alone.  However, I have come to realise over the past couple of months that there are one or two people that influence me greatly.  Though, I am fully aware of the fact I am listening to what they are saying, they are completely turning my views around.  It is most strange for me!  I mean, I was told that coffee is pretty bad for you.  I knew that, but once I got home, I suddenly had no desire for a coffee and had a tea instead!  I haven’t had a coffee since.  What is it that allows people to have this influence over us?

Single and independent or happily married and reliant?

Hey Bloggers,

Are you the type of person who wields control?  Do you love the idea of being able to stand on your own two feet?  Or do you like to have that one person in life you can confide in and aid you in your decision process?

‘Single and independent, or happily married and reliant - which would you rather be?

In life, no matter what, we all have to subject ourselves to some form of relationship.  Weather it is professional or personal, we all need them to function.  Though, to what extent do we actually need them?  To what extent are they good for us?  To what extent do we lose control?

It is better to live in ignorance than in fear...

Hey Bloggers,

Are you a puzzle solver?  Do you need all the answers to every question you have or can you sleep at night and just accept facts?  Do you ever question even your own existence?

'It is better to live in ignorance than in fear of your own knowledge.'

What I mean by the above is that sometimes, it is better to not know the truth as it can be quite upsetting.  Sometimes, we try to seek answers that are nowhere near in our grasp - the principle of philosophy.  Though, knowing these answers will only change our mental state - for the good or worse - so why do we need them?  Is it better to know what happens after death or to just hope we know what happens after death?  Would you rather your partner not know that you had a secret affair with another person 5 years ago despite the fact you've been loyal ever since or come clean to them and risk your very happy marriage?

A journey to light is better than a journey to dark...

Hey Bloggers,

Do you prepare yourself for failing?  Do you not attempt something purely because you fear you will fail at it?  Or are you on the other end of the spectrum and believe you can win anything?

'A journey to light is better than a journey to dark, even if you have to pass through the dark to get to the light.'

Getting in the right frame of mind before attempting something big is something many psychology professionals will tell you.  It is also better not to let anything or anyone along your journey knock you or divert your course.  This journey may be to: love, a career, a result or even a certain status.  Whatever the journey, you're not going to get to the end very easily with an unclear path.  Though, admitting defeat before you have begun is obstructing your own path.

Insecurity increases security...

Hey Bloggers,

Are you someone who has been hurt mentally of physically by someone or something you once adored? Are you someone who has never had a father, mother, grandparent or sibling?

'Insecurity increases security, a hole plugged with paper is better than a hole not plugged at all.'

Well, some may think the statement today is a bit contradictory – which I could agree with. I have said that being insecure makes you more secure – which will be expanded later on. Though, after this I have stated that 'a hole plugged with paper is better than a hole not plugged'. What I mean by that is if you are missing something in life, anything will do. Not in all cases but, the criteria is less specific and less fussy in desperation. Look at the amount of wives who live with men who may physically abuse them, sleep around and just use them as a doormat. Look at how much these women will put up with yet, they do not choose to leave their husbands because their husbands are plugging a pretty big hole in their lives.

It's what's on the outside that counts...

Hey Bloggers,

Do you believe in not judging a book by its cover?  Do you think you never know a person before you know them?  Do you believe everyone has something to hide?

'It's what's on the outside that counts, as long as the inside doesn't taint it.'

Now, there are many types of people on this planet.  Some of them are very intricate, others are simpler.  This can be down to how open a person is about themselves.  I mean, where is there a problem when you have an answer?  What I mean by that is, the more open someone is, the less there is to solve as you have all the answers.  Now, with people like this, I believe they don't have an inside as you know them for who they truly are.  People who hide things from us do have an inside.  Though, if the inside is bad, but the outside is good, does it really matter what’s within?

Take control or be controlled...

Hey Bloggers,

What kind of life do you lead?  Do you find events just piling up and you have too much to do?  Do you find you have absolutely nothing to do?  Are you a ‘yes man’ or can you say no?

‘Take control or be controlled by those who control.’

For some of us, control is our safety net.  We like to rely on others to make decisions for us as perhaps we do not want to responsibility – we may feel inadequate.  Confidence is the key to control.  Without believing in yourself, how can you make decisions for yourself – besides the decision to let someone else decide!  Despite the fact control is often geared by confidence and courage, is it always a good thing?