Insecurity increases security...

Hey Bloggers,

Are you someone who has been hurt mentally of physically by someone or something you once adored? Are you someone who has never had a father, mother, grandparent or sibling?

'Insecurity increases security, a hole plugged with paper is better than a hole not plugged at all.'

Well, some may think the statement today is a bit contradictory – which I could agree with. I have said that being insecure makes you more secure – which will be expanded later on. Though, after this I have stated that 'a hole plugged with paper is better than a hole not plugged'. What I mean by that is if you are missing something in life, anything will do. Not in all cases but, the criteria is less specific and less fussy in desperation. Look at the amount of wives who live with men who may physically abuse them, sleep around and just use them as a doormat. Look at how much these women will put up with yet, they do not choose to leave their husbands because their husbands are plugging a pretty big hole in their lives.

Relationships are like bridges...

Hey Bloggers,

Have you ever wondered where you go wrong in building a relationship?  Do you attach yourself too quickly?  Do you not allow yourself to attach at all?  Do you prefer to deal with things by yourself and therefore feel you need no one else?

'Relationships are like bridges: overload them and they will break; don't bother to maintain them and they will rot.'

Every time someone asks me about relationships, I always use my bridge metaphor - I like metaphors see.  Although many people sigh and pull funny faces when I start to use my metaphors - especially this one - I think it is easier to see the problems and strengths within a relationship.  So, what I thought I'd do here is tell you guys the bridge theory and see if it helps you to step out of the picture in your relationships and see them more black and white.  Read on if you're interested.

Are you a spectator or player in life?

Hey bloggers,

Do you watch other people live their lives?  Do you not even know anyone else is living?  Is your life dedicated to helping others?

'Are you a spectator or player in life or a bit of both?'

We are always seeking labels to pin on people to explain them though; there is also a large number of us that try to apply labels to ourselves to describe our feelings, emotions or actions just so we know we are 'normal'.  I have to admit to being a label man, I will try to put labels on people, but I tend to devise my own labels.  One of the biggest things I have been thinking about at the moment is who is a spectator of life and who is a player?  What defines them?