It's what's on the outside that counts...

Hey Bloggers,

Do you believe in not judging a book by its cover?  Do you think you never know a person before you know them?  Do you believe everyone has something to hide?

'It's what's on the outside that counts, as long as the inside doesn't taint it.'

Now, there are many types of people on this planet.  Some of them are very intricate, others are simpler.  This can be down to how open a person is about themselves.  I mean, where is there a problem when you have an answer?  What I mean by that is, the more open someone is, the less there is to solve as you have all the answers.  Now, with people like this, I believe they don't have an inside as you know them for who they truly are.  People who hide things from us do have an inside.  Though, if the inside is bad, but the outside is good, does it really matter what’s within?

Take control or be controlled...

Hey Bloggers,

What kind of life do you lead?  Do you find events just piling up and you have too much to do?  Do you find you have absolutely nothing to do?  Are you a ‘yes man’ or can you say no?

‘Take control or be controlled by those who control.’

For some of us, control is our safety net.  We like to rely on others to make decisions for us as perhaps we do not want to responsibility – we may feel inadequate.  Confidence is the key to control.  Without believing in yourself, how can you make decisions for yourself – besides the decision to let someone else decide!  Despite the fact control is often geared by confidence and courage, is it always a good thing? 

Relationships are like bridges...

Hey Bloggers,

Have you ever wondered where you go wrong in building a relationship?  Do you attach yourself too quickly?  Do you not allow yourself to attach at all?  Do you prefer to deal with things by yourself and therefore feel you need no one else?

'Relationships are like bridges: overload them and they will break; don't bother to maintain them and they will rot.'

Every time someone asks me about relationships, I always use my bridge metaphor - I like metaphors see.  Although many people sigh and pull funny faces when I start to use my metaphors - especially this one - I think it is easier to see the problems and strengths within a relationship.  So, what I thought I'd do here is tell you guys the bridge theory and see if it helps you to step out of the picture in your relationships and see them more black and white.  Read on if you're interested.

Madness is a mad thing...

Hey Bloggers,

Do you try not to find deeper meaning in things?  Is it easier to just accept things or do you need to know the ins and outs of everything?  Do you try to find meaning where there is no meaning?

'Madness is a mad thing, does that have a meaning?'

There are many people on the Earth who go mad.  It is fact.  Though, why do these people go mad?  Some do because of their great amounts of academic intelligence, others because of severe chemical imbalances in the brain and others because they think too hard.  There could be a link here.  Massive amounts of academic intelligence leads to one thinking too hard and perhaps missing the simple steps but, also severe chemical imbalances in the brain could mean we are using some parts more dominantly than others, right?  Therefore we are thinking harder again.  And deep thinkers, well they just try to analyse everything where it doesn't always need analysis.  The trend is therefore missing out the middle man and the first man - only looking towards the final stage...

You're like a tree; a bad branch can lead to a good piece of fruit...

You're like a tree; a bad branch can lead to a good piece of fruit...

Hey Bloggers,

Ever feel like just cutting someone or something out?  If you just get rid of a hurdle, you won't have to jump it, right?

'You're like a tree, a bad branch can lead to a good piece of fruit though remove that branch, you also remove that fruit.'

In life we experience many hurdles, tests some may call them or even just factors of life.  Whatever you believe, hick-ups and problems arise in many places.  There are many people who choose to deal with problems, many who choose you ignore them and others who choose to remove them.  If we remove a problem do we also remove the solution?  What if the solution is in fact a reward?  In my opinion, a tree is the best way to demonstrate the potential gain from a problem.

Does putting your career before your family show a bad family life?

Hey bloggers,

Do you put your family or career first?  If career, do you live alone?  Can a career be an escape from reality?  Can it show insecurity about you?

'Does putting your career before your family show a bad family life?'

There are many people out there who prioritise family and career differently.  This is because people have different outlooks on both careers and families.  Some may see a career as a way to support their family, some may see it as a way to boost their ego and others may see it as a way to escape from their life.  So, we can categorise careers in two main ways: it is either to aid you or your family.  Though, does a career aimed to support mainly you indicate a poor family life?

Telling someone something and belittling someone are very similar...

Hey Bloggers,

Are you ever in the midst of discussion with someone and then feel suddenly unable to participate?  Do you ever feel as though you are better than someone in a discussion?  Do you gain satisfaction through giving other people knowledge?

'Telling someone something and belittling someone are very similar; there is a very fine line between the two.'

Many of us enjoy an intelligent conversation (by intelligent I don't just mean about science) that really gets people thinking and exploring - though, I have learnt some people don't appreciate them early in the morning!  However, sometimes these conversations can turn for the worse.  There are a few main turns these conversations can have that lead to the participants fighting; conflict of interest’s being the main one.  Though, linking back to the title, in conversations that involve intelligence, it can result in one or both parties educating the others.  However, where is the line between belittling someone and educating someone?